I lost my cool today.
The university has many designated parking areas for the students and some of the areas are so bloody far from our classrooms that we have to walk like 15 minutes and by the time we reach, we are already sweating and heaving and are no longer in the mood to enjoy the lecture.(well, at least pretend to be a diligent student at the best of times)
In order to keep everything in check, the university has implemented a car sticker for all students and staff of the university. These stickers, I assume, will let the security guards who are doing their rounds know which cars are not allowed to park where and where.
Wishing to abide by the rules, a few of us went to the administration building(which will take you 20 minutes to walk to from our class, so we drove) to buy the sticker from the finance department. I parked my car at the side, alongside other cars, in front of the administration building. There were easily about 10 other cars doing the same thing as me. Perhaps not all of them belong to students but I swore I saw three boys walking into the car which was parked behind me.
Zhu Zen remained inside my car while Lie Yuen and I made our way into the administration building. The whole ordeal would probably only take slightly more than 15 minutes. I admit that I’m in the wrong if my car was blocking traffic. But the cars could still pass. Nevermind, about that.
What I’m most pissed off is when some chief guard came down from his jeep(they use jeeps to make their rounds around the university. For 10 students in my university, there is at least one security guard.) and shouted at us at the top of his voice from about 100 metres away, “STUDENTS CANNOT PARK HERE!!”
My immediate reaction? I was OFFENDED! Lie Yuen retaliated, “How can he raise his voice at us?! So rude!” hoping that he was within ear shot.
I obediently drove away while the anger in me seethed.
I wanted to follow his car and make him wind down the window so that I can tell him, “You are very rude for raising your voice at me. It is very unprofessional of you and we do not deserve to be shouted at. Please speak to us more politely in the future.”
However, what entailed was a cat and mouse chase. The both of us would be on opposite side of the roads(separated by a 5 metre wide divider) and I would stop my car when he stopped my car and I would wind down my window, hoping that he would get the message to wind down HIS window. But he didn’t and he stared at me, and I replied with a glare.
I really wanted to go down and give him a piece of my mind but there was no where for me to park.
I saw the Deputy Vice Chancellor talking to one of my old lecturers and I immediately parked at the staff area and stomped all the way to him, hoping to lodge a complain. Coincidentally, that rude security guard’s jeep was parked two spaces away from me but he was no where in sight.
The entrance to the administration building was manned by this innocent looking security guard from Nepal whose only command of the Malay language was “Tak boleh park di sini.”(their other default phrases are: “Mana ID?” and “Tak boleh bawa buku keluar.”) So I said to him, “Tadi guard yang marah saya? APA nama dia?” And he couldn’t give me an answer but could only continue with his “Tak boleh park di sini,”. I told him with a very crazy looking smile that it would be for awhile. JUST. While. And he said, “Okay, cepat!”. Wow, new word.
The Deputy VC was my old microbiology lecturer as well. He, unlike the security guard, is a very well educated man who is soft spoken. I went up to the two lecturers and asked them “Sir, can I say something?” and he was like, “Yes! Of course, please!”
Then I started rambling like an energizer bunny who was about to burst into tears about how I’m so rudely reprimanded just because I’m a student..bla bla..who is he to talk so rudely to me.. bla bla..can he learn not to raise his voice at me..bla bla..why are security guards so rude?..bla bla..
Then the Deputy VC calmed me down and said, “Okay okay, I will reprimand him okay? Even I don’t dare to raise my voice at the students…! I will reprimand him!” He then turned to my other lecturer and excused himself, “Let me appease her first! I’ll walk her to her car.”
I apologized to him for losing my cool but I needed to get it off my chest. For all the years that I’ve been in this university, yes lah, I may have parked my car at the wrong places(just 5 minutes?!) but not until damn melampau like in the middle of the road but the worst ones were when I was in year 1 and every other week I would be told off (very rudely) that my skirt is too short this that this that. You know how short were the things I wore to uni?!! They were only about an inch above my knees!!
It came to a point where I was so angry with the security guard at the old campus that I went to complain to the student affairs about him(who tried to calm me down, very professionally) and he came into the office to complain to them about me. I glared at him as he entered the office and slammed the door just behind him. I’m sorry to appear so in front of the nice people at the student affairs but my beef with that security guard was to the point of no return. But all this happened three years ago…. it’s all water under the bridge on my part. Can’t even remember his face now. He would see me and look at my skirt and go, “YOU again!!”
Funny how so many girls can get away with skirts that end a foot above their knees, now that we’ve moved into the new campus. Because of all the telling-offs that I’ve received(to the point where they wanted to file me as a student with discipline problems), my wardrobe here in Kedah is filled with grannie looking things. Oklah, if I can abide by the rules which want us to look professional, I don’t mind.
I’m not a very difficult person. If you can tell me off with a polite manner, a kind smile, of course I would listen to you.
But I will not tolerate it when people shout at me or raise their voices at me just because I’m a freaking student.
Being a student does not put me at the lowest of the low in the social heirarchy!
During hospital visits, we were shouted at by a nurse once just because we didn’t greet her.
I am a human being, just like you, worthy of respect.
I cannot stand people who are strangers to begin with, but who clearly have higher positions than you, launch into shouting mode when they think that you’re doing something against the rules.
Rudeness will only make people despise you, it will only stain the name of the institution that you belong to. Your reputation will be known far and wide and life will continue to be difficult for you if you remain the person that you are.
All the education in the world cannot rectify certain attitude problems.
When I become someone of power someday, I will not discriminate against people who are of lower status than me. I’ve never shouted at a person for NO reason at all. (even when I shout at my brother, it’s because he didn’t let me play his playstation/drive the car/use the computer(back in the 90s)). If my future maid pisses me off, I’ll just send them off. You won’t see my name in the newspapers with the word “Hot iron” in the same paragraph.
7 thoughts on “Just Because You’re In Authority”
I’m glad you finally get it out. I tell you it’ll be worse if you have to pen up your frustration and walked away from the rude guard without voicing it out to your Deputy VC.
I had an experience to date I still regret for not having my guts to retort to a jerk decades (well, 20 yrs to be exact) ago. 😛
I went for my first interview in a posh hotel and the receptionist asked a few of us interviewees to have a seat on the sofa. Then the SOB of a manager came back and barked at us…. “Itu sofa bukan untuk you all duduk mia…”
I was too scared back then to retort him. I still regret… I wasn’t really that good with all the DNMCH back then.. 😛
As for your case, good for you! 🙂
jo: heya Helen!=) Lol…i must be damn good at acronyms. That’s Diu Na Ma Chau Hais…am i rite?:P
Wah… your years of pent up “tam hei” looks quite bad to me. Just coz some people is of a higher ranking they are so rude hor? I don’t get why people are like that. UGhHHh.
Yeah..at least Deputy VC is a very nice man. That’s what I call good customer relations. I pay the uni good money for a good education. The guards should learn to treat me like a human being. You think the guards at a hotel dare to scold their customers like that?
I just with I have the guts to do what you had just did. Some of the guard in my uni are very polite and nice, but some are very rude and ridiculous (they just ask us to follow rules that we never knew existed). They’re very lucky that I haven’t lose my cool yet…
jo: yeah, stupid damn rules…. =) of course, for every rude person out there, there are sure to be nice people. just unfortunate to meet the rude ones.Â
Were these guards locals?
I find that sometimes foreign workers who work as guards are more polite than the locals. When I had to submit my IC at the entrance to the U.S. Embassy, the lady was sooo rude and BOSSY. I just asked a simple question … she yelled, “Baca notis di atas!”
DUH – I saw the notice, but I just wanted to confirm. Obviously, I would not have asked if I was CONFUSED by their incomprehensible sign … After I submitted my IC, she just threw the pass at me like a bone to a dog.
I didn’t waste my breath on her as I figured that she would be the dumbest person on earth to think that she has higher authority over “normal citizens” … Why? If anyone were to bomb the U.S. Embassy, they will be the first to die.
jo: the one who scolded me was local. Yeah, they are more polite because they know that they are from a foreign land – basic courtesy ma. wah, that’s really too much…..why didn’t you you complain to the management?
LOL LOL I laughed out loud when I read that line.. yes I agree. LOL LOL.
security guards are not of higher positions than us, so are bus drivers and chefs (refer to my post, both of whom i got scolded from mercilessly). if they are rude to me, i will just keep telling myself that they will remain as guards/drivers/chefs forever while i’m not.
seriously i damn hate people like that. give them a little power and act like they own the world. i cannot respect anyone like that lor!
jo: YAAaa. I saw that post also. Damn kesian. So bloody rude. So unlike you to not fight back!
if they like power they should like respect too rite? some people are two daft to realise that the two traits go hand in hand.
i feel your pain babe. nepali guards are quite notorious for being like pillars and not letting you go by–we have them here too!
last week at uni during the semester break i wanted to park my car in the sessional staff carpark (because i.) i am kiamsiap; ii.) it was an effin’ holiday, most sessionals don’t come to uni then anyway; iii.) i am also a sessional staff mah!) and one of the malay guards said he’d be fine with it, but i’d have to watch out for that ‘orang nepal tak reti bahasa’.
true enough this guy was yelling at me telling me i couldn’t park there and asking me for ID–upon which i told him my ID was with security because they were reconfiguring it to give me swipe-card access to my office building (which was TRUE) and that i was a tutor (also true) but he kept insisting that I couldn’t park there and asking for ID, repeat cycle.
BAH! in the end i sped off to the paid carpark because i think i was going to hit him, and it’s not like i’m that impoverished that I cannot afford to pay for parking. then when i wanted to get into the gates EVENTHOUGH. THEY. SEE. ME. EVERYDAY. i was held up getting asked for ID! which was obviously still with the security main office. grr!
i hate incompetents.
jo: ISH, they don’t understand the saving time concept. .. these incompetents should be made to carry little hand held nepalese-english electronic dictionaries to better facilitate communication. Ugh. but of course, would our universities pay for these little gadgets to tame the temper of their students(and staff)? I think not. 🙂 Gotta bear with it then bitch to your friends.
Put it this way. That job and parking space is probably the most prominent part of their lives. Obviously they’re protective of it.
Take Madame Librarian for existence…
jo: lol brilliant analogy. totally get your point.