In recent years, I realise that I’ve taken to calling most of my girlfriends or any of my more than Hi-Bye female friends “Babes”.
I like to start off texts with “hey babes, lunch later?” or “hey babes, I’m here di. Where you?”
Babes is just so easy on the tongue. It makes the female on the other end feel closer to you and favours can be done easily as well – hehe.
A few years back, I would’ve cringed at how pretentious all these name calling are. It’s not like I just got back from overseas and taken on their terms of endearment, like how some of my besties have come home with whole new accents. (nudge, nudge, Chien and She Dee). Not to say that they are pretentious, but they caught on! I’m notÂ the one who went overseas and got exposed!
In highschool, we were all very Malaysian and stuff, calling each other with self given nicknames like Melmel or estee… Mine was Joey for the longest time. My Left Boob moniker was quite popular too but that’s material for another entry, another day.
Moving on to college, one of us started calling each other, “hey girl!” and it caught on like wild fire. To the point that one of us said something like, “eeyer, I call girl she also call girl”. “Girl” was still mildly malaysian, not so much laced with Westernish pretense.
As the years passed and my girls moved to places like Hawaii, Warwick, Brisbane, Melbourne etc etc.. suddenly I was “honey” or “hun”. Then the latest must’ve been “luv”. Takes some getting used to, but it’s nice to know that I’m loved. :p
What I don’t get is the “dear” that online sellers and buyers like brandishing about.
But if you see closely, you can tell which are the ones who can’t quite get the hang of it. Now THAT is pretentious.
I don’t like dearing with people whom I’ve never seen in my life and also calling them by names if they are your customer is a form of respect and shows that you have a sense of professionalism.
I was cracking my head, trying to recall what guys call each other. The only word that came to me was “Oi lanciao” or “Oi fucker”. Must be best friends.
I guess inserting the “oi” means you’re friends with him and substituting the “oi” with a “that” means you wanna whack the shit out of him!
Guys are very complicated.
“Hey Dude” and “Hey man” sounds lame. I’m running through my mental database, and I don’t recall any of my guyfriends calling each other that.
Just a thought running through my head while folding the laundry at 2am.
14 thoughts on “Terms of Endearment? No?”
HAHAHAHA. farnee you. 🙂 <3 cant wait to fly home and see all you ‘babes’! 😛
jo: hahaha brings back memories of texting during taylors right:D
in my husbands case :
1) hardly known frens trying to act close to him : hey brader
2) frens met for first time trying to be close : yo bro. bro here, bro there. (like since when u shared the same mom/dad dude)
3) really close frens — eh you basket
4) a**holes who cut into our lane on the road : my husband calls them a variety of ‘oi cibai/motherf*cker/idiot/blardee hell so on so forth’
jo: Omg! i beh tahan hey brader. They always sound drunk! hahaha i know the kind (2). Suck ups!!
=D and I always go “WHAT THE FUCK” when someone pisses me off on the road too! It just rolls off the tongue. Profanities on the road. Perhaps another blog entry. 😀
lol i think most of my guy friends in msia call each other oi or nicknames or their names ba. in adelaide, they do call each other hey man, hey dude with a what’s up. *Shakes head* But then I think Nate did it in Gossip Girl and how come that sounded TOTALLY different? I wonder =P
jo: gweilo ma! that’s why senang sikit. lol Nate damn pretentious. Speaking of which…I’m starting GG Season 1…:P shy.
Haha… these days I just call some of the girls I know, “woman”, like: “Eh woman…”
Some guys I start with “Oi”.
It really depends on whom I’m dealing with.
jo: OH! i totally forgot the eh woman! Eh woman is used when you want to make a point. “EH WOMAN, please ah!”
Please remove the farker named Kaki Cucuk Langit from your links..All the farker did was plagiarise other ppl’s blogs, and trying to call himself a blogger…what a dickwat.
jo: he is a personal friend.
aiyo….got nothing else to think about at 2am in the morning ah?
anyways, i call my close male friends assholes coz they are 🙂 as for the females, have to respect a bit lar. so usually i’ll call them beautiful. i’ll call you beautiful as well…..hi beautiful 😛
jo: gotta love how boys love each other. 😀 eeyer, got or not one.
I hate ‘Dear’. Makes me cringe. Even when it’s from a boyfriend. ‘Love’ I Love. Mostly it’s hun. Babe. Woi. Haha.
Did you just link me up last night?
jo: hahaha i DO dear my boyfriend:) no wor..quite long ago me thinks?
been just recently upgraded from “hey babe” to “bitch” by my very close fren. this means we more fren-er now? ; )
jo: haha u must’ve jokingly insulted her. 😀
I call my two best buddies “fun cheong”. -_-ll
My 4-year-long housemates, “Ei, fucker.” Haha.
jo: hahaha my predictions are correct!
Lol. I call my close friends woman and darlx.
And my not so close friends whom i know i can joke around with biatch.
And try as I might to call my guy friends fun cheong – i never get around to it.
In the end, i just call them ei babi. >.<
jo: MING CHOII!!!! 😀 hahaha.. good to know that despite going to Uk, u still call ur friends Malaysian generic names. 😛
Weird cos my wordpress had a trackback linking to your site..
jo: hmm..that’s strange.
I actually didn’t start calling my male peers
“Oi, fucker. Lol.”
jo: *pat on the back* proud of u!
my boyfriend and his two gay partners call each other, “yo dick”
hmm surprisingly i don’t pet name my girlfriends. except for my housemates. must be the lack of friends from overseas.
jo: wah yo dick? Never hear before..haha.
hahaha… but i’m sure back at school, u give each other nicknames..or rather create your own nicknames and get ur friends to call u that right?
haha love this post!!
somehow i dear my besties alot~ ‘hi my dear’ or just ‘weih!’ to my closest guy or gurl frens. and i don’t get it that everytime i dear my cousin bro he’ll give me that sorta sweat look!! lol
and dunno why i always have this feeling that darling and honey is reserved for my life partner. eheee.
yeah, do take care alright. Don’t overstress yourself!! =)
Jia you! ^^
jo: hahah i know what u mean by reserve. I used to only dear my boyfriend. but then when some stupid person says something, out of sarcasm I’ll go, “My DEAR…”