A few months ago, my friend met a 30 year old guy at a library and she thought he was nice, so they became friends.
Like any other girl, she could sense that the guy showed some interest and kept him in her reservoir of available guys. Don’t get me wrong, she’s not a player at all. No noÂ no. *shakes head profusely* She’s just keen to make new friends as she is single too and would like to see what is out there for her.
They’ve been smsing and Facebooking each other for a few months before they decided to meet up. She already broke a He’s Just Not That Into You rule. Apparently, dating via social networking sites is the new booty call.
So. ANYWAY, they made plans to go out for lunch and she mentioned that she would bring her sister along. The guy was like, “Aww, can I hang out with only you?” So she thought, “okayyyy…. so this is a date. Alright, keep cool. This is fine. Totally normal.”
It was only very close to the day of the date when they finalized their plans. Perhaps, it was another sign that He Was Just Not That Into Her. But Malaysian men can be great procrastinators so we’ll leave it at that.
She got a call from him first thing in the morning regarding their date. He said, “I got no car today lah..can you fetch me?”
If you’re her boyfriend, of course it’s okay for her to fetch me. But for god’s sake, this is a first date. You don’t freaking ask a girl to fetch you?
But my friend is a cool girl. She gave him the benefit of the doubt and said, “Okay….can you give me your address?”
He was very vague about it and didn’t really tell her how to get to his place. I mean if you’re a man, you won’t ask a girl you’ve only seen once to come and fetch you. You’ll take the bus, a taxi or even the LRT! And this is not like some high school boy who still depends on his mummy to fetch him around you know.
She was a little impatient and annoyed already and so she arranged for them to meet at the mall near his place. She even asked her sister and best friend to come along for lunch.
Through her texts with him, he said, “So today you’re buying lunch hor!”
For no reason. No freaking reason AT ALL.
Remember. This is a 30 year old man. With a managerial position at a famous company. At this point he pretty much sounds like a conman. A 30 year old man who asks a girl to fetch him on the first date and then tells the girl that she’s paying for lunch.
I asked her, “He’s joking, right?”
“No!! He was serious about it!”
I have no qualms about paying for my boyfriend because some other time, he would be paying for me. Sort of a give and take. But as a guy, if you want to start a relationship, you should start to roll the freaking ball. Settle the first bill of the first meal that you have together, because she will be indebted to you for a loong loong time. Of course she has the choice whether to see you for a second time or not lah.
So when they met up, he said, “Since you are buying lunch today, why don’t you choose the place?”
Wow… what a gentleman.
Pissed off, she simply suggested a hawker area near her friend’s place. At this point she, her sister and her friend were already weirded out by the guy, like why is he asking her to pay for lunch on a first date.
She doesn’t mind going dutch, especially since this is a first date. Plus, they don’t even know each other that well.
The guy was not embarrassed at all to constantly remind her that she would be paying for lunch. He proceeded to order quite a big lunch – like a few dishes of stuff.
When the bill came, you know what the asshole did?
He motioned to the waiter that she would be settling the bill.
Immediately, her sister and her friend shot out with loose change of their own. He was puzzled, “Eh? She’s paying what.”
Her friend shot back, “Oh, I sayang her wallet ma.”
He then looked curiously at the bill, like very kancheong like that. Then, this guy, this 30 year old guy who has a managerial position at a famous company, this 30 year old guy who is on a first date with a girl many many years younger than him, takes out JUST enough for his own portion of the bill.
WHEN YOU’RE FREAKING WORKING FOR SO MANY YEARS AND HAVING A MEAL WITH A GIRL (EVEN IF HER FRIENDS ARE AROUND) THAT YOU’RE INTERESTED IN, YOU FREAKING PAY. GET IT?
I mean it’s not too bad if you decide to go dutch. We’d still raise our eyebrows but we won’t make an issue out of it. But to keep reminding the girl that she would be paying for lunch AND then backing out on his intentions, only to fork out his share of the bill… wah lao. Really cibai la this fella.
My friend vowed never to see him again. EVER.
Gender equality and all that jazz is important but ONLY more so in the workforce. When you’re 30 and working and dating a student, BLOODY PAY LAH. IT’S HAWKER FOOD FOR FUCK’S SAKE.
26 thoughts on “Cheap Men Are The Scums Of The Earth”
ohmygod! what a jackass lo! so what did your friend do with that jackass after lunch?went back straight or went for a stroll?
so muka tak malu!!
he’s testing your friend. he might be a filthy rich millionaire. haven’t u read this kind of stories before ?
skirt the wierdo, man! *shudder*
lol. for goodness sake never get involved in a guy 10 years older. some are there in that kind of managerial position because they are “thrifty”(better word for stingy) lol. what to do company says cut cost here cut cost there. hahaha. Actually the world is to be blamed also. no i am not a male chauvinist but when the females ask for gender equality this is what they get. i am just looking on the other side. no offense but actually i think a working guy could bloody afford a meal la. some more he is dating a student. 30 years old manager no car wei. not to say i have one because i am also a student but i think if your friend is into stingy man, then he is the perfect suitor. hahaha
feichai, what a good theory.
WTF. Even if it’s not a first date but just meeting up with friends it is thoroughly unacceptable behaviour.
So miss, you haven’t updated much these days. Dentistry becoming more exciting/busy already is it? Your #1 fan is deprived! 😛
If he’s a filthy rich millionaire doing some weird tests, what is he testing for? Test if the girl has low standards? High tolerance for kiamsiap-ness?
i think he’s a mummy’s boy lar…..i dont call this kinda guy cheap skate or conman. he’s just a retard…OKU. maybe he’s got some brain disease or something….lolz. paying at the first date is like the first regulation in the dating bible. no wonder he’s still single *grinz*
an @ss mann.. maybe that’s why he is still single!!
if im your friend, i would pay my own bill and leave the guy alone to pay his own bills. let him get embarrassed for once. he is a freaking adult and he has no money to pay or his own meal meh? wtf wtf…
no wonder he is 30 and still single..no girls want him..thats for sure..
omg this is nuts, man!!
i dont mind going dutch but asking a girl to pay for the meal and reminding her constantly… and being a working man himself. omg.. words cannot describe how insane is tat.
haha he wont be getting any girls with that sort of attitude..
Yerr… what a jackoff.
If it was me, I’d give him a kick in the nuts and won’t even bother going through the “date” at all lah. What a waste of time and money.
Kanasai punya a–hole. And some of these jokers actually wonder why they’re still single. Pbft.
omg cannot make it.
Jerk jerk jerk jerk jerk wtf! I’ve got no idea why reading this just enrage me! EWWW! Mempersiasueykan the guys only! Boooooo!
LOL such a wimp.
Anyway Jolene I was at Midvalley yesterday and saw this really cute Tofu in a tofu box thingie and thought of you!! ^^ So cute to see the tofu staring out from the tofu box ^^
Name of guy! Spill!!! 😛
This is probably why he’s still single at 30 (and should remain to be until he dies old and lonely =P) lol.
Ask the idiot to rot in hell lar .
so freaking stingy ..
this idiot should never date any girl .. what a loser ..
wahh, terrible person. Cancel even before going la like this =)
does the guy actually work at a big firm and hold a managerial position?
seriously..? doesn’t sound like an educated, grown-up to me.
she should have just cancelled the date the moment he asked her to pick him up and was vague about it!
u obviously have some psychiatric issues here….go to the HSAH OPD
argh, cheap men!
total ass man the guy. it’s not a wonder he’s still single. hope your frend dumped him at the roadside and let him walk home hehehe…i am such a meanie!
lol is he for real? omg, this is like the most ridiculous date i’ve ever heard lol
Such men ought to be shot dead and his picture be posted on the net.
Wow.. such a creature is living in Malaysia? My god. drop our guys face. Kiss his ass ….